Transparency in the Disciplinary Process
We are older and married recently. Our very adult children (not LDS) harassed us… unto death threats. They also incited a very unhappy recent former spouse. They waged emotional war and went to the Bishop with stories (LIES). The Bishop also tried to dissuade our marriage. This was most challenging to our testimonies and marriage as we believed the Church blessed marriage. When we moved and went to the Temple for a session we were denied access. This was so shocking and we learned that the former Bishop had put an annotation on the Church record: “sexual and financial” predator. The former Stake President put his ok on this. Other than the initial Bishop contact incident, we had no Church court and had not been contacted about the Temple recommend or annotation. We have been judged, juried, and executed unrighteously. (P.S. Our email has not changed and phone numbers did not change for six months and our forwarded mail never had any notice from the old ward.) Nothing that has happened via the Church could stand any litmus test of decency or of innocence until proof of guilt. When the new Bishop told us of the annotation as to why we had been denied at the Temple he added additional insult by shaking his finger and saying he would be watching us. The purpose of an annotation as a permanent record on our record is 100% a mistake and 1000% wrongfully applied in our situation. This issue has affected us so profoundly. A continuum of self-deprecating emotions has been our constant ally. We have been told by our new Bishop that the marginalizing and judgments SHOULD not affect us. However, I am sure our other family members and friends would contend that they are affected.
We would love to prove our innocence and would suggest that the Church be responsible for their actions and reactions.
Latter-day Saints for Change 
I’m sorry about your situation. It really is a shame that one person can have this much power over your life and there’s no court of appeals, and no checks and balances, on the assumption that everyone will be inspired by God.
The Church discipline process is both important and consequential, as you point out. I analyze the process and suggest reforms in a few blog posts:
(http://bradcarmack.blogspot.com/2011/11/church-discipline-unveiled.html)
(http://bradcarmack.blogspot.com/2011/12/lds-church-discipline-appeals.html)
(http://bradcarmack.blogspot.com/2011/11/differences-between-handbook-1-stake.html)